Lust
Sex is treated differently from other human needs. Nobody assumes you should “intuitively” know how to cook or “automatically” know how to build a shelter.
Sex is the only skill we are expected to possess without receiving any instruction. Women are led to believe that good sex happens magically and naturally “if you are with someone you love”. Consequently, there is a lot of talk about love in this culture, and almost none about sex.
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Kink in de Relatie: Kink Aware Coaching 